I want what I want

Not getting what I want is something fairly "new" to me.  I'm not saying that I've always had exactly what I've wanted, but in general when I wanted something in life, it was mine for the taking, or at the least I knew how or what I needed to do in order to get it.  Now, things seem to be different & I'm not real sure how or what to make of things.

I've never had to "scheme" or go to any extreme lengths to have what I wanted.  I've never had to be rude, evil or mean either.  Hurting somebody to get what I wanted was never an option I even had to consider.  Somehow, amazingly, everything always wound up falling into my lap.  Yes, there have been hard times & times I've tried to forget.  By no means has my life been perfect.  Yes, I've made my fair share of screw-ups.  But there was always a bright side to things.

Now I sit here & wonder why I can't have what I want this time.  Why don't the other side of things want what I'm wanting this time?  

All I really want is for everybody to be happy with their life.  I want what I want but at the same time I want everybody else involved to want the same thing as I do.  I don't want anybody to feel like what I want is going to mean they don't get what they want.  But I don't understand how somebody can want something for somebody they love that doesn't want the same thing.  The way I see things & the way I "want" for those I love is what they want.  How can somebody love somebody & not want that somebody to be happy - how can they want something for that somebody that the somebody doesn't want as well?  

Maybe this makes no sense the way I want it to make sense, but that's where I am.